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Ivan Coyote
Well this just touched my heart. It did.When I was young and struggling to figure out who I was, I stumbled upon a book called #BoysLikeHer I bought it because one of my favorite musicians, Lyndell Montgomery, was one of the authors. It’s a really fascinating book. The subtitle is Transfictions. It’s a collection of short stories and poems, some of which are based in reality, some of which are true, and some of which are completely made up, and you don’t really get tipped off as to which are which. The four authors were collectively known as a performance group called, Taste This. Each of the four had a slightly different sexual identity. Anna was high femme. Zöe was androgynous but generally fell to the more feminine side. Lyndell was a boi. And Ivan... Ivan was butch AF. Mostly, I identified with Zöe and Lyndell, but part of my heart was with Ivan, and there was always this one picture of Ivan that spoke to me. Something about it felt deeply resonant with who I was on the inside.Tonight I walked past my bedroom mirror and glanced over and I saw Ivan. It was the strangest thing. I had to go to the bookshelf and find the book to confirm. Yup. It’s strange how something as simple as a picture in a book can bed down in your psyche so hard that 20 years later it surfaces as an outward expression. I still don’t consider myself butch, nor do I claim any label at all. I’m just a Barb. But I’m also a bit of an Ivan, whatever that means. I’m grateful that I found that book when I was young. It taught me a very important lesson. It’s ok to be whoever you really are and to embrace your complexity, and to realize that in some ways you are a beautiful mosaic of everyone to whom you’ve ever felt connected.Ivan Coyote 💚 ... See MoreSee Less